Saturday, November 21, 2009
Found a nice article (:
"....
Whatever the case, it is clear that crying lessens the depth of grief, whether as a result of lowering stress levels in your body or the sympathy it gets you.
That's the good news.
The bad news: The fact remains that crying does not solve anything.
You cannot cry a problem away. Whatever it was that caused you to be sad - a broken heart, an illness, betrayal, loss of money - does not disappear even if you had wept buckets.
It's the same as going on a holiday to 'cure' a heartache.
What I've learnt is that no matter how many hours you spend gazing at the ocean, no matter how many times you trace the name of your beloved on sandy beaches, no matter how many mountains you climb or meditation sessions you attend or frenzied hours of shopping you embark on, nothing changes when you come back. A loss is a loss is a loss is a loss.
So what is one to do when the pain in your heart hurts as bad as a physical gash? How do you cope when you are so sad you find it hard to breathe, when the future looks futile and you wake up crying?
Acute sadness debilitates the mind and body, but there are ways to fight it.
Some say the key to a happier life is to lower your expectations: Aim low (or don't aim at all), and appreciate what you currently have instead of dreaming about hitting the happiness jackpot in the future.
Others point out how reconciling with loss and sadness can take several forms.
You can, for example, choose to devalue what was lost so its absence becomes less haunting.
You can analyse the loss at length to delay having to come to terms with it, or you can memorialise it and subsist on mementoes and memories.
You can also deny the loss and live in the past, or you can blame everything and everyone around you to lessen the guilt you might feel for the part you played in the heartbreak.
You can even find a substitute for the loss to help you forget.
But the best advice I've read is this: you can accept the loss and reconcile yourself to its reality.
"
so many things have been happening but I haven't had the time to post about it! D:
reminder to self -
post about : results, Grad, O's, pigs outing, FAM! etc. by next week.
HAHA
i was blue-d at 11:44 PM
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Little change of the heart, little light in the dark, Little hope that you just might find your way out of here. Cause you've been hiding for days, wasted and wasting away, But I got a little hope today you'll face your fears. Yea I know it's not easy, I know That its hard, Follow the lights to this city. Get up and go Take a chance and be strong, Or you could spend your whole life holding on, Don't look back just go. Take a breath move along, Or you could spend your whole life holding on, You could spend your whole life holding on. Believe the tunnel can end, believe your body can mend, Yea I know you could make it through cause I believe in you. So lets go put up a fight, lets go make everything alright, Go on and take a shot go give it all you got. Oh yea I know it's not easy, I know that it's hard, Know that it's not always pretty. Get up and go Take a chance and be strong, Or you could spend your whole life holding on, Don't look back just go. Take a breath move along, Or you could spend your whole life holding on, You could spend your whole life holding on. Don't wanna wake up to the telephone ring, Are you sitting down I need to tell you something, Enough is enough you can stop waiting to breath, And don't wait up for me. Get up and go, Take a chance and be strong, Or you could spend your whole life holding on. Don't look back just go, Take a breath move along, Or you could spend your whole life holding on. Get up and go, take a chance and be strong, Or you could spend your whole life holding on, Don't look back just go. Take a breath move along, Or you could spend your whole life holding on, You could spend your whole life holding on. Don't spend your whole life holding on.
Yeah.
i was blue-d at 4:28 PM
春天的花开秋天的风
以及冬天的落阳
忧郁的青春年少的我
曾经无知的这么想
风车在四季轮回的歌里
它天天的流转
风花雪月的诗句里
我在年年的成长
流水它带走光阴的故事
改变了一个人
就在那多愁善感而初次
等待的青春
发黄的相片古老的信
以及褪色的圣诞卡
年轻时为你写的歌
恐怕你早已忘了吧
过去的誓言
就像那课本里缤纷的书签
刻划着多少美丽的诗
可是终究是一阵烟
流水它带走光阴的故事
改变了两个人
就在那多愁善感而初次
流泪的青春
遥远的路程昨日的梦
以及远去的笑声
再次的见面我们
又历经了多少的路程
不再是旧日熟悉的我
有着旧日狂热的梦
也不是旧日熟悉的你
有着依然的笑容
流水它带走光阴的故事
改变了我们
就在那多愁善感而初次
回忆的青春
i was blue-d at 4:28 PM
Monday, October 5, 2009
" If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise. "
haha...
pigs outing was fun :D went to watch SURROGATEEE! nice show (: storyline almost like "I, Robot" but still nice la(;
after movie went arcadeee!!! omw, krystal and I set high score for street basketball! :D happy ttm! (: then it was lunch at SEOUL GARDENNNN! I swear I've never eaten so much in my life! I think we ate for like almost 2hrs D: but the food was delicious and it was really fun haha! the cooking and all was so hilarious!!! like just dumping everything into the soup, trying to make it have more taste xD then desiree threw some "junk" food in to rachel's plate thinking that plate was 'dirty' when she was actually still eating from it. HAHAHA. total des moment (:
after eating, sat there for a while and talk bout JC and stuff. then we decided to camwhore at taka's entrance (; so funny! took ALOT of nice artistic shots :D pics on FB!! (:
love pigs outing!! can't wait for another one :D
oh and also batch outing !(:
Saturday was netball carnnn! (:
It rained halfway through but we still continued playing :/ haven't played in the rain for a loooong time! miss netball ttm!! haha, it was really super fun (: Everyone was like super wet after the whole thing ended!!! LOL. then rachel lu and amanda cheu went to pour cold water on people some more! HAHA! all of us went to class to dry off for like an hour or so before going home hehe!
k, shall end off here and go do math now -.-
i was blue-d at 8:53 PM
Monday, September 28, 2009
"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away"
haha quite a cool quote ;D
yesterday went dempsey to celebrate pei yin's b'day (: i LOVE the aglio olio there! HAHA!
had a super fun time too :D thanks py! hope you enjoyed your 16th birthday! and ahem, treasure the opportunity given to you. (only some ppl would get this xD)
Pharm chem options have been really interesting!(: love the stuff we're learning so far. and the people who i'm sitting with - desiree,shihui and shamain ho!- make it even more fun. HAHA. today was super funny omw. all the random hittiing and retarded jokes xD
but, aaaah, I still dunno what subjects to take in JC :/
bio/physics/bio/physics/bio/physics?!?!?!
sigh, haha. anyway, really can't wait for pigs outing on thursday!!! :D so long since we've last gone out together! SO EXCITED :D
but oh man, just realised have to go back to school for philo COI in the morning at 7.50am to 8.50am -.- and i'm not even the one taking the COI this wk, sigh ): and thursday also have a champions league match at 2.45am!!! which i'm most probably watching. haha, hopefully won't sleep in school xD
3 more days to PIGS OUTINGGGG :D
<3
i was blue-d at 8:49 PM
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
watched the manchester derby on sunday :D
BEST DERBY EVER! omw, 3 equalisers (stupid defensive mistakes!!) , 2 EXTRA TIME GOALS, and a winner coming in at the 96th minuteeee!!!
practically screamed when OWEN scored!! HAHA.
hmm, next big fixture is 4th oct! liverpool vs chelsea!! can't wait :D
School has been kinda boring. like double CHINESE on tuesday and double MATH today -.- almost died la!! but tmr's PE and philo so not tooooo bad. haha.
oh and I quite like leona lewis's new single - HAPPYYY! :D
Someone once told me that you have to choose What you win or lose You can’t have everything Don’t you take chances You might feel the pain Don’t you love in vain ’cause love won’t set you free I can’t stand by the side And watch this life pass me by So unhappy But safe as could be So what if it hurts me? So what it I break down? So what if this world just throws me off the edge, My feet run out of ground I gotta find my place I wanna hear my sound Don’t care about all the pain in front of me I just trying to be happy I just wanna be happy, yeah Holding on tightly just can’t let go just trying to play my role slowly disappear But all these days They feel like they’re they’re same Just different faces different place Get me out of here I can’t stand by the side Ooh, no And watch this life pass me by Pass me by So what if it hurts me? So what if i break down? So what if this world just throws me off the edge? my feet run out of ground I gotta find my place I wanna hear my sound don’t care about all the pain in front of me I’m just trying to be happy Oh, happy Oh So and it's just that i can't see The kind of stranger on this road But don't say victim Don't say anything So what if it hurts me? So what if I break down? So what if this world just throws me off the edge? My feet run out of ground I gotta find my place I wanna hear my sound Don’t care about all the pain in front of me I just wanna be happy Happy I just wanna be Oh I just wanna be Happy.
i was blue-d at 8:42 PM
Friday, September 18, 2009
Woah, haven't blogged for a month haha.
EYAs are FINALLY over !!!! :D
gosh, at one point, it was like, never gonna end ><
Feeling kinda weird right now cause there's NOTHING to study haha! haven't felt this way in a looooooonnng time!
yesterday went out with amanda, kristie, pei yin, shi jin and hui yi! :D went to watch "the UGLY truth" at bugis Iluma cinema. My first NC16 movie :D oooh yeaaaahhh! hahahah. and the show was awesome, so funny ttm (: after the movie, went to berrylite and just talked. felt soo relaxed :D haha.
hmm, don't feel like posting anymore. shall just end here (:
i was blue-d at 4:43 PM
